I am a “People Pleaser”,
and it can be rather bothersome at times.
I really want to be liked and accepted.
I want to be able to say with Sally Field,
“You like me, you really like me”.
However, life is not an awards ceremony and ultimately
people pleasing is a rather exhausting and frustrating activity.
The good news is, I am in recovery.
The bad news is, sometimes I relapse.
The best news is God loves me anyway AND
“I can do all things through Him who strengthens me”!
I know I am supposed to want to please only God.
But I have three things (last count) working against me and
I sometimes don’t recognize them, at least right away.
They are the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life.
They are common to all of us who believe.
All sin will fall into one of those categories at its root.
Fortunately, Jesus supplies us with all we need to do battle with all three.
First of all, He laid down His life to gain our freedom and give us victory over sin and death.
Then, He gives us our Spiritual Armour, His Holy Spirit, grace for the journey and friends in our faith.
He lives to intercede for us and never abandons us.
So how is it we, or I, still manage to find myself entangled in sin?
“The devil made me do it”, is not something that a believer really can say.
The book of James tells us it’s our own desires that lead us astray.
Jesus has severed the puppet strings which Satan held on any believer who calls on His name in faith.
So it goes back to the big three.
All three are involved in the area of people pleasing.
In it’s most subtle way it can lead us off God’s path for our lives as well as impact
His will in the work He is doing in the lives of others.
It can busy us with activities that are not in accordance with His Ephesians 2:10 “good works” prepared in advance for us to do.
It leads to discouragement with self, others and at times, those we want to please most!
So how can we avoid the “PP” in our lives?
Well, I will say we follow the One who came to lead the way.
We pray, confess, and bring it into the light.
Darkness and light are incompatible.
Sharing our struggles with another brings light and keeps the enemy from making mincemeat
out of we little sheep!
That being said, remember that pleasing people is a by-product (sometimes) of pleasing God.
He is able to make our enemies at peace with us.
How much more will he allow us to be pleasing to those who
love us anyway and grant us favor with others?
Repost: Originally posted as
“Confessions Of A Recovering People Pleaser”
Inspired to revisit, edit and post after this recent post:
To Un-Follow And Un-Friend
Linking with Laura at Beholding Glory for Faith Filled Friday: