The Tin Man – The Voice of an Incest Survivor by Holly Otten


This book is not only beautifully written, but it includes lovely photos and original artwork which minister grace visually. Holly shares reflections from her healing journey in a creative, thought provoking manner. She invites you into the painful confines of a tightly wound cocoon and allows you to experience firsthand her personal transformation to gloriously freed, beautiful, released from the past butterfly.
The Tin Man- The Voice of an Incest Survivor includes poetry, and poignant vignettes which facilitate and foster openness, communication and truth.
Written for those who are Sexual Abuse Survivors.
Regardless of where one is on the healing journey this book will be like a small treasure chest of grace to open again and again. As a SA Survivor I appreciated the spirit with which this was written. Holly shares more specific details of  her story in her book  titled “hand to Hand”.  
Jesus Christ took the shattered pieces of her life and brought her freedom and wholeness. With the help of her Savior, she has overcome the damaging affects of sexual abuse and neglect, a nervous breakdown, four miscarriages, divorce” and more!  
Purchase The Tin Man at Author’s website or Amazon
Visit Facebook Page Survivor of Sexual Abuse
I received a copy of this book by the author in return for review. 
The opinions expressed are completely my own.




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How I Forgave My Molester by Melinda Todd {Book Review}

The subject of forgiveness is difficult enough for most people to grasp but even more complicated is it when dealing with what would seem to be the most unforgiveable of all sins, that of sexual abuse of a child. Melinda takes us through her journey of healing by the grace of God and the power of His word. 
This is key and instrumental in Melinda’s book.
 She does not pretend it is easy or ask us to put on rose tinted glasses while she shares. 
She is open and honest without crossing the line of “too much information.” 
She doesn’t bog us down with too many details but gives us just enough to connect, relate and empathize. She also does not let us just stay there, that is not her goal. 
Her goal is to bring us into nothing less than the truth and in this short but very powerful book she does just that. Loaded with empowering scriptures, tenderness, sensitivity and authenticity, 
Melinda delivers hope and healing by the word of her testimony and the power of God’s Holy Word. 
I wholeheartedly recommend “How I Forgave My Molester” to anyone 
who feels led to the title and wants to know how they can learn to forgive, 
and move on toward wholeness and healing.
You can visit  Mel at her Blog: Trailing After God.
The book is available as Paperback for $6.99
and on Kindle for $2.99
as of this publish date.
Prices subject to change. 

Penny For Your Thoughts: Interview with Penny Price McIntosh – Inspiring Women Series

Penny is also featured in this months issue of Oxygen magazine!

As a former competitive bodybuilder I admired the physique and athletic prowess of athlete Penny Price McIntosh. I believed she had some of the same convictions about competition I had and she inspired me greatly back in that day. She maintained and showed her feminine muscularity with grace, class and dignity while competing in the early days of the Ms Olympia Bodybuilding Competition – considered the top echelon of contests for physique. I considered myself a fan and would search for articles and anything I could on my favorite fitness champion. She inspired me to stay fit while pregnant, as I saw a great article with her training through her pregnancy and she also impressed and challenged me with her honesty in an interview about her past dealing with the pain of sexual abuse. Recently I was pleasantly surprised to find out she is still active and fabulously fit at 50. Here I journey Beneath The Surface with the Fitness Model, Former IFBB Pro, Wife, Mother, Current Health Coach and Personal Trainer: Please welcome the fabulously fit, Penny Price McIntosh!

First of all Penny, how old were you when you began to exercise with weights? 19
Who encouraged you try competitive bodybuilding or what compelled you? I was brought into a gym by my boyfriend and he taught me a few moves to keep me busy.  The gym owner saw a bicep appear and thought that I should compete in the “Ms Springfield” in 1980, a show he was hosting.  I was scared out of my mind! I am a true introvert and standing on a stage in a bikini was the last thing I thought I could ever do. I kept winning despite my fear, and decided this may be something I could be good at.
How many bodybuilding competitions and Olympias have you competed in? I don’t really remember exactly.  Around 15 competitions.  I was in 2 Ms. Olympia’s (Radio City Music Hall in new York City!), and the first Ms Olympia fitness in ’96…that was my last show.

What do you think of the current direction of Women’s Bodybuilding? I rarely look at the magazines anymore but when I do it is shocking.  I can appreciate the mass and quality of the female bodybuilder, but it isn’t natural.  It is amusing to see how far they have gone but I personally feel sorry for them.  The women get caught up in the drugs and the pressure to get bigger and more ripped, but they apparently have lost perspective of what the world view is of feminine.  Maybe they just don’t care what anyone else thinks.  That’s fine.  It is their body.

What do you consider to be the take home lesson (s), if any from your journey in competitive bodybuilding? Do things that scare you.  That is how you grow.  Take chances, step out of your comfort zone. Take risks and follow through.  
Who inspires you most? Not one person in particular…but stories of humans that have a vision and are not deterred by obstacles what everyone thinks.  The brave people that fight for their own truth.
Who has had the most significant influence on your life and/or your perspectives about life? Authors Leo Buscaglia, Ayn Rand, Brian Weiss, plus my big sister and my husband.
I once read in an article that you had been a victim of sexual abuse/molestation, can you tell me more about this and how it has impacted your past and present choices?
Wow. Well, I was a victim.  Of not just one, and not just males.  I must have had “easy target” on my forehead.  I am not sure how to answer this.  I don’t like to blame my mistakes on anyone but myself so I have a hard time knowing if my past bad choices were just being vulnerable and young or if they were a result of  being manipulated by molesters.  That being said, I would like to think I would have made better choices and been smarter about who I chose to have relationships with if the abuse hadn’t happened.  Presently I am paying it forward…in a positive way.  I have four children and I know that they know what to do if they are approached by a molester…they know to say “no”.  I know the chances of it happening to my children are slim.  I also do everything I can to help abused children.  I support Children’s Home Society and also The Children’s Advocacy Center.
How did you find freedom from the past pain of the experience? I read lots of books. I wrote down the experience and shared it with my family. I analyzed my reactions/feelings and thought deeply about the source of some of my negative emotions.  Knowing where feelings originate is the first step to healing.
If you could give a piece of advice to someone who feels imprisoned by their past what would it be?  Let it go. Don’t let it define your life. Fight for your freedom from the monster…don’t let it win.  Keep searching for the beautiful person you are and don’t let a bad experience make you feel ugly…fight for your life.
Could you give me your thoughts about exercise and it’s connection to mental health ( form a professional and/or personal perspective)?
Personally, I am a different person after I exercise.  I have never, in 30+ years, left an exercise session in a worse mood than what I walked in with.  It is a drug.  There is no doubt that the “drug” is why so many people get attached to their trainers.  They associate them with the endorphin rush they get after exercise.  I have noticed the more intense the workout is, the better I feel. One of my favorite books on this subject is Spark.
You are married with children! Can you tell me those sweet details? I am smiling now.  As mothers know, there is no beginning or end when it comes to kids.  They are such a part of who I am.  I learn more about myself from them than they do from me. I have noticed people who don’t have kids are a little less patient, a little less understanding, and a lot more self centered. My husband is my rock. He is a Real Estate Developer and Commercial Broker and really HOT! Lol-He is 10 years younger than me and we have been together for 18 years!  I feel very fortunate to have him in my life.
Penny’s wonderful family includes: Husband Harry, Dakota 20,
 Lady 14, Dylan Rose 12, Harry III 10.

Where did you grow up and where do you currently make your home?  I grew up in Northeast Missouri and now live in Maryville, TN
Can you share any tips for balancing fitness, career and family? Take your aggressions out in the gym,  really listen to your kids, use lots of sticky notes…I have found them to be useful in keeping my eye on the target.
How do you stay motivated to exercise on a daily basis?  I know it makes me feel better when it is over.  If I don’t feel like doing my hike/bike/workout then I just lie to myself, “I will just take it real easy today”.  98% of the time I end up hitting it really hard once I am warmed up.
Your favorite ways to stay fit these days?  Interval cardio, hiking, weight training.
What’s the biggest difference you notice as you try to stay in shape at 50 as compared to 20 or 30?  I have to watch my thoughts. I remember when I was 25 I told myself to remember how sore and achy exercise made me and to never blame those aches on getting “Old”, to really watch my thoughts about aging.  Too many people blame aging for the negative physical attributes when it is really just an excuse to not exercise and eat right.  In reality, if they exercised and ate right they wouldn’t feel old!   I have lost some softness/fullness.  I still workout as hard as I ever did but my skin is thinner and less elastic.  I really notice  what I eat affects my appearance, and how I feel, more than ever before.  My face can age 10 years if I eat sodium and junk food.  It is amazing the impact nutrition has on your skin.
Your best motivating pitch for the sedentary person/couch potato? 
It is simple but it may not always be easy.  It is not an all or none thing…Just do your best %80 of the time and you can cheat %20 percent of the time.  Two things that are easy that will be all you ever need to do is:
1) Nutritionally, count your carbs (keep them under 100grams/day)  
2) Physically, find one thing you enjoy and do it most days (walking, biking, weight training…) if you enjoy it you will do it.
Of course there is a lot more to it, but if this is all you can drag yourself to do you will lose weight and get healthier.
If you had to pick one word to describe who you are, what would it be? 
Open

Do you have a spiritual belief?
I consider myself an extremely spiritual person. But “religion” is purely “speculation”.  Religion is like sports.  There are hundreds of types with different rules, stories, and expectations.  But when you strip all the varieties down to the core they have a few common threads.  With religion I like to believe in the common threads.  Love, Charity, Forgiveness, Peace etc. To say your religion is the only way, is not very spiritual.  One thing I do firmly believe is that when you die you will know the truth. There are certain things we simply will not understand until we die.  That is why I don’t fear death.  We are here to learn and to be the best that we can be. 

What is next  for Penny Price? I had a big year last year…this one will be enjoying the fruits of my labor.
Where can we find you? www.HealthCoachPenny.com, 
facebook, twitter, and I love getting texts at 865-740-4182
Thanks for thinking of me and expending your energy on this interview!

Thank you Penny for taking time out of schedule to answer my questions and thanks for continuing to be one very Inspiring  Woman! 

  
Here is Penny 20 years ago around the time she was motivating me!







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