Your Social Media Diet (How’s That Working For You?)

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If you’re like me (if you’re here- you are), you like your share of social media. However, if you really are like me (stop resisiting the admission), you will admit, that sometimes you overindulge.

The question is: how can we have our Social Media cake and eat it too?

Well, I have been contemplating this question, long and hard, between status updates, tweets, YouTube clips and Instagram moments, of course…and I think I have a few snippets of really useful  somewhat practical tips to share.

We must admit we are powerless….

Wait, no. What I mean is, we must take hold of our Social Media behavior by the only thing it understands and responds to: Self-Control. Wait, don’t click away…hear me out!

Grab your calendar, or the three of them if you have ADHD (like me). Now, write down the things that you know must ge done and the places you know you need to be. It’s Sunday or Monday, depending when this posts, so go ahead and look at the week ahead. Take that pencil and whatever needs to get done, at this point, gets written down. OK, I’m waiting.

Kids appointmenets, your haircut, the grocery shopping, dinner preparation, housework etc.

Now, those things that you also need to do concerning work, blogging, additional writing or creating.

Any other committments for church, friends and families birthdays, Sherlock etc. (or Downtown Abby, I suppose). If you’re like me it’s Sherlock, Baby!

OK, now…

Portion your allowable Time Blocks for Social Media and commit to ONLY partake of SM interaction at the designated times. Just as an exercise or nutrition plan has specific components and portions, so do our Social Media diets! But, let’s use a user friendly term, Social Media plan of action.

If you’re like me (give it up already, YOU ARE!), then you sometimes occasionally frequently get sidetracked by Social Media interaction. Remember, all things are acceptable (for legalists) but not always beneficial (all is filtered by grace and wisdom)…

So, what does one do?

Determine the details and  portion it out across the week. How often, How much, How long.
Ask yourself,  when will you allow yourself to use Social Media and the parimeters to which you want to adhere, just as if you were on a strict but wonderful (HA!) diet   Nutritional Plan. So, perhaps you want to be on Social Media twice a day. Choose the times, and add them into your calendar. If you have SM apps on your phone you will need an extra measure of self-contol or just elimate them until you are feeling empowered to “just say no!”

A Social Media diet, puts you in the driver’s seat. It is better than a complete fast if you want to continue sharing blog posts, pictures and also staying connected to certain friends and groups.

So, repeat after me, “My name is (your name in blank) __________________.”

Hi, __________________________.

In real life I am always trying to balance my in person, and online life. If you’re like me, you are too. I’m here for you. Well, in a portioned kind of way.

What do you think? Are you in need of a Social Media Diet? How can you plan your time in a way that helps you feel good about your choices with Social Media. Let’s encourage and support one another! Do you have an idea or tip that helped you use more self control with your SM interaction? Please share in the comments! 

For those of you who are like me, you proabably contemplate things a lot, and then come up with really snarky status updates and tweets while you are driving or in the shower. Sometimes you even dream in live streamed, edited video clips. Occasionally you come up with a ridiculous blog post masquerading as useful, when in reality is just one, incredibly silly endeavor. For no good reasun except…you can.

Happy Monday, Friends! May your week be full of tweet worthy moments, blessed status updates and picyure worthy instagram moments…of which you have the good sense to share or NOT share with discernment, sensitivity, and good humor.

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Lessons I’ve Learned About Blogging (Part 2)




Welcome back to the second of two posts on Blogging…the first one is here: Lessons I’ve Learned About Blogging  (Part 1)…here is the wee bit rest of my lessons learned…

Lesson #3- Building Community/Link-Ups and Blog Hops- All that being said, let’s face it, we want to share our words, and how can you do that if no-one is reading them or knows you are here? Blog Hops and linkups, as well as special interest communities, are a great way to connect, mingle and meet like-minded others in the blogosphere. I will be the first to admit, I had no idea there is this amazing fellowship among Christian Bloggers, Writers, Artists. It is beautiful. I can’t tell you how much God has opened my mind and heart through His amazing Body Universal via the internet. When people say the derogatory things they say about internet usage, I feel the need to remind them that nothing in and of itself is evil. We bring to everything we do, ourselves. If we are full of light and truth, then we will reflect it. But if we are looking for trouble or unguarded and unwise in our motives, attitudes and actions then trouble will find us- and then yes, it can be negative. As with any other endeavor, ministry, activity, we must seek Him, first, and be careful how we invest our time and energy. Linking up regularly with weekly Blog Hops allows us to make some wonderful friends. We learn, and encourage one another, from wherever we are. God is not bound. He is so much more creative than we, in the means He will use to touch others, reach out, connect. Don’t limit your thinking, or yourself. I am richer from those who I have come to know through blogging! Your Challenge: Join up with a blogging community in the New Year. There are many, but find which work for you or feel like home. Sometimes I have a hard time remembering all of them, there are so many wonderful ones. But Here is a PLACE that lists many: Missional Women Blog Hops List


Lesson #4 – Everybody May LIKE Sally Field, But Don’t Lose Sleep If they Don’t Like You!
In real life, we will not be everybody’s cup of tea. Ultimately you make your grave and rest peacefully in it. OK, no- I don’t know why I just wrote that…what I mean to say, and what you know in your heart of hearts, is that as wonderful as I am, not everyone is going to see that adorableness shine through. Some might find me downright annoying. Feel free not to chime in your opinion if you agree, thanks. Same goes for you. I am not writing to please EVERYONE. I am writing as God leads and as I believe is relevant and vital from my perspective. As a matter of fact, I recently turned down what seemed to be an excellent opportunity that fell in my lap. It looked good and seemed like a big opportunity. But when I looked into it further, I realized this great by appearance opportunity was not a good fit for the heart of my blog, for me, or for those who hang out with me here. I was afraid to say no, after excitedly agreeing to this particular opportunity. But in the end, I had to explain why, although I appreciated the offer, it was not a good fit for my Faith focused blog. It just felt, wrong. And although a interviewing a well known Christian woman seemed like a great thing, the stipulations left me feeling uncomfortable on a number of levels. Although, I may never know if I missed “a great opportunity”,  and it was hard to say no, I felt that I stayed true to my conviction with this blog. I know there are other blogs who would and did jump at the chance. Guess what? I have no desire to be all things to all people. Um…well, mostly. There are enough people in the Blogosphere for everyone to express themselves as they see fit. Me? I’ve got this one gift, this one voice and I share it here…it’s all filtered through the lens of the Almighty. I’m not holier than thou, just aware that if my me-ness resonates with you, great. If not, there are a plethora of voices from which to choose. I’m not losing sleep if I’m not your cup of tea. Don’t lose sleep if you’re not mine. Your Challenge: Ask yourself, if you think your writing voice and who you are are in sync? What is your heart’s message to share? Reflect on that and write about it! Let go of the desire to please everyone!

Lesson #5- The Rhythm Is Gonna Get You~ Consistency in Blogging
I had been blogging for about 6 months, when I happened upon a blogger who shared a blog writing challenge called The Giving Thanks Challenge. It was my first 31 day challenge, and I was not on a blog writing schedule but just writing as I felt led. Something amazing happened during that first November. The challenge was to write on the theme of thankfulness for the 31 days. The fruit of that first endeavor was this, once I blogged daily that November of 2011, it sealed the deal- I became a daily blogger right then. The more I wrote, the more ideas I had. After that first challenge my blogging was pretty much daily. It worked for me. Blogging was therapeutic, and beneficial. It reminded me that even when I felt useless, rejected and unsure of the future, God could use me in ways that I hadn’t really considered fully. A blogging schedule is something you determine that works for you, your family and your real life. I have a variety of things I like to write on, so I try to connect with others who are on the same page. The beautiful thing about this blogging thing, is it’s what you make it-schedule wise. Since I blog frequently I don’t expect everyone to read all of my posts. Whoah! Way too much of me, for anyone! But, I know bloggers who post 2 days a week, or on specific days, and I like to visit on those days, expecting to see new material! There is nothing worse than unpredictability with regard to this. Whatever you decide is your Rhythm of frequency for posts, your readers will love if you are consistent. There are so many good blogs around, but it’s nice to know you can count on finding fresh words from your favorite blogger on the same day each week. Even if you  have to go into your archives and find a post that got few views, edit and re-post it, try to keep some kind of consistency. Trust me on this one. I have pulled about a dozen posts from when I first started the blog that I noticed had few views (I was not hopping all over the Blogosphere yet) and tweaked them, posted them the second time around. One of these posts has over 1400 views It is my top viewed post of 2013 (Why did I find that out? A fellow blogger on FB asked, what was your top viewed post of 2013 and BAM, there I went scouring the archives!). Point is, if you feel you can’t post fresh stuff regularly, freshen your old stuff! Get some more mileage out of those hidden treasure posts you wrote but many may have not yet read. Your Challenge: Whether you post once a week, once a month or daily- establish a plan, and stick to it. Keep it simple, but keep it, and it will not only grow your blog, proper- but grow you, too!


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Lessons I’ve Learned About Blogging (Part 1)

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    I started blogging in 2011, and make no bones about it, I was clueless. As in totally, DUH. Little did I know that I would soon be blogging daily and loving every minute of it. Blogging has provided me with so many blessings it is absolutely mind boggling. From free books, surprise gifts in the mail, connecting with published authors and others who graciously extend friendship and encouragement to newbies, to a free blog makeover and friends on every continent (yes, REAL friendships, with real people- don’t get me going with that one) blogging has been quite an amazing experience. I credit this little gift, as a Faith Life Preserver for transient times. May I say, life is a transient time, continuously, in my opinion. It ain’t stopping for us. Or as Steve Miller sings, it keeps slippin’, slippin’, slippin’ into the future. So for those who may be new to blogging or even in case you may glean something from my lessons learned stumbling through the blogosphere, here you have in these posts, all I have learned that is useful.

I have included a Challenge at the end of each lesson learned to torture prompt you in your own blogging process. You can accept these or tell me to stuff it. Either way, I’m not offended. Well, I’d prefer you don’t really tell me to stuff it, but whatever.

Lesson # 1- It Never Hurts To Ask– OK, I was out of work and injured when I started this blog, so out of my potential boredom (going from teaching numerous fitness classes a week to sitting on my duff all day and night) I got brazenly bold. I asked strangers, who I admired or thought interesting, for interviews via the internet. Why not? What have I got to lose, I thought. Really, if I make an ass of myself, who cares. I have nothing to lose and a possible yes. And Yes, happened every time. Only ONCE was I turned down, very graciously, mind you. It was an interview with Sarah Young, in 2012. I have yet to finish my yes-es, of all I have asked. Thanks to the gift of ADHD, I never run out of ideas, and everywhere I go, another story pops up before me. Which makes it hard to keep up. ASK. If you have an inkling, ask somebody. It’s how I started Random Journal Day with my dear bloggy friend, Susie of Recovering Church Lady. It was a post I saw on her site and I asked if she was going to continue, and wouldn’t it be cool to have a link up, too? My first year blogging was to get over my fear of REJECTION. No is not death. We go on, after no. And it gets easier to risk. Ask someone you admire to Guest Post. I do. Don’t be afraid to ask. Your Challenge: What is the one thing you want to try this year on the blog but haven’t yet? Try it.

Lesson #2- The Numbers Thing- OK, so when I started blogging I never even looked at the followers, views, etc. Unfortunately, as a blogger it won’t take long before you will overhear bloggers in the blogosphere talking about increasing followers, etc. Well, depending on what you are in blogging for, it may or may not matter. I am not going to be a liar, let’s face it, I used to stand on stage in a bikini competing with other women for a trophy…sigh. It’s true. And although I am not who I used to be – Praise God! – I found myself starting to compare and it became a negative thing…whether the blog or other Social Media, so I have had to work at letting God purge it out of me…this little competitive, fleshly remnant. Blogging for me is an extension of His grace in my life, uniquely shared by my perspective. It is a gift I give, because freely I have received and so, this little piece, honestly, I just continue to let Him remind me of the reasons I started: His prompting. You are not a number. I am not a number. That being said, God will grow your numbers as He sees fit, or not. It’s not my thing (personally) to make it happen. For me it is a distraction from that which is my focus. There are many others who are more business savvy who can help with that. My goal is to be careful to keep myself reflecting His grace and glory…and allowing Him to keep me from seeking my own. I am in process, friends, a mere mortal of flesh and blood. But, as far as I can, my desire is to let Him shine here-albeit imperfectly through me. And enjoy the journey! Your Challenge: Know why you are blogging. If it is for business, then do it heartily as unto the Lord. If ministry, the same. Clarify for yourself your motives, and then go after that which God leads you to do.

What lessons have you learned from blogging?

Do you have any epiphanies or tips you’d like to share? 

Please leave them in the comments, I’m all for sharing thoughts on this journey!

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**Here is Lessons I’ve Learned From Blogging:   Part 2.

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When Your Real Life Bestie Writes Her First Blog Post (Birthday Blessings)

It was ONE year ago that I sat with my dear friend on her Living Room couch, sharing a cup of tea while she explored creating her own blog.You know I shared that in one of my Miscellany Monday posts. Today I have the honor of sharing her first blog post, right here and am bursting like a silly, crazy proud mama because I know her heart, her struggles and her faithful friendship. She prays for my writing and this blog, friends. She has stood by me through adversity and is a faithful friend. When I think of her friendship, this is the verse that comes to my mind:

A friend loves at all times,
    and a brother is born for a time of adversity.
 Proverbs 17:17.

My sweet friend brought me a  coffee and Rice Crispie Treat from Starbucks and sat with me during my weekend Yard Sale. This is how I look when I roll out of bed and have a Yard Sale. But she looks fabulous, right? 

Saturday, I celebrated my 49th year of living. Forty – Nine years of walking on this planet. I purposed to count my blessings and the way He loves me from Sunup to Sundown. But you know, somehow it didn’t all happen the way I thought. Yet it was still Good. From morning to evening I counted it all joy, confessing along the way, when I started to grumble or complain…sorry- it really is my default. But He gives more grace and gives me faithful friends and family. I realize I am both needy and grateful because He does provide, not always the way I expect or even want, at times. But He knows me better than I know myself. He loves me, gives me good things, and some things I reckon not so good BUT I can still thank Him, IN and through ALL. 

 I realized this weekend, that it is the presence of those I love I long for so much more than anything they give. And realize that this is the will of God, to know His desire. His presence. He so longs for us to dwell in His presence. Aware. Not the gifts we bring, the sacrifices of toil. But our sitting, walking, moving all the day knowing He is with us. Yes, as close as our very breath. In all of the joy, pain, sorrow, struggle and blessing. He, sitting with us, in our husbands, sons, daughters, mothers,fathers, friends. It’s miraculous but He is with us.

#471. This post birthday present: seeing my BFF brave sharing her heart and words here in the blogosphere.

The rest of my multitudes will be shared in later post. Meanwhile would you click on over and send some encouragement Lauree’s way. I know you will be blessed by her brave sharing. 

Read her very first published post called “Waiting to be First” over at Tea Dreams and Sleepless Nights– I promise, you will be blessed!

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Savoring the Good Things He Gives (RI Pictures)

Hi friends! I have not done a Miscellany Monday in a while but today I thought I would say hello and share a few pics, and check in with you all. Here are my randoms and multitudes.
From our garden…YUM! 

A peek into my current Journal- random scribbles-
and if you missed this Random Journal Day post, you might find some fun and inspiration, help for writer’s block and perfectionism? Random Journal Day is the first Friday of the month…consider yourself invited!

A thoughtful friend dropped by with this gift Saturday, which she said I had to open right away!
#SharkWeek

Just for fun- Once a year! This is the first year I actually had “treats” thanks to another sweet, friend, who felt I needed these. 

She made these cupcakes for me… 

She felt I needed these, too!  
Horses in Greene, Rhode Island

Beautiful sky… 


This “fortune” was at the park when I took my morning walk- it cracked me up!
My hubby took this picture on the South County Bike Trail.
He texted it to me, but was my phone near me? Nope.
But I got it later!  

I am in the process of matting my ICADs and putting them in a little album!These were some of the last ones that I made.
Daisy Yellow hosted this simple but wonderful challenge-
creating one index card a day, using a variety of mediums.

Counting again, because it is needful.

#446-Luscious, fat, numerous ripe Blackberries in our back yard.
#447-This gift of blogging and how it keeps me spiritually afloat.
#448-His gracious creativity flowing through me to overflow.
#449- Friends who not only accept this crazy girl as is, but who embrace me with all of my crazy. And lavish me with unexpected gifts! #shark week
#450. Horses- wherever they are. God bless horses. Because.
#451. For a hubby who took the beautiful picture on his bike ride to show me because he knows how much I love BEAUTY.
#452. Fortunes found that bring smiles.
#453 Shark Week for better or worse…and how they intrigue me
#454 Completing the icad challenge and feeling appreciation for each of my little “creations”!
#455 An abundance of reading material- I love books!
#456 the Library…sigh- I love the public library.
#457- I love the East Side of Providence and enjoyed a lovely evening at Wayland Square book browsing and visiting Teas and Javas~ Summer in Providence…nice place to visit but I’ll stay in Gansett, BABY!

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